Huzzah! Another new question in the inbox! This one was anonymous. Here’s the question:
Do you have any tips on how to meet a non-sexist Mormon guy?
Hmm… well… Not really. Try the hallways during Sunday School. Or try wearing pants to church and see who still talks to you.
This question comes at a good time. Guess what, readers? Yours truly was accused of being sexist just this week on the internet. Hard to believe, right? I was reading a blog, left a comment, and a woman (whom I don’t know) indicated that I was sexist, and implied that I’m not really capable of recognizing sexism since I’m male, and am therefore the benefactor of sexism. I’ll spare you the details of the situation, but True Story.
Ok, for the record, I’m sure I’ve benefited from societal patriarchy in ways that I’m not aware of.
But here’s why I can’t really answer your question in a way that you’ll be satisfied with: I don’t really agree with the implication that most Mormon men are sexist – or at least more sexist than any other group of men you’ll find out there. Sure, Mormonism is an absolute patriarchy and teaches some strict gender roles, and this is a major issue that the church needs to deal with. But I don’t know that the institutional sexism that exists in the church necessarily means that most Mormon men are sexist, and especially not when compared with other groups of men.
Or maybe that’s just the patriarchy talking. Better try the pants thing.
What do you think, readers? What advice do you have for someone who is trying to find non-sexist men, either inside or outside of Mormonism?
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