Like, You Know?

I recently listened to a podcast where the woman being interviewed constantly repeated the words “Like… you know?” Over and over, she used it as a crutch when she wasn’t able to formulate other words. She was a very smart woman, with an interesting story to tell. A published author, she composes her words beautifully on paper. But the interview was soiled and barely tolerable because of her bad habit repeating these phrases over and over again. It was extremely unfortunate that such an intelligent woman ended up sounding so juvenile and, frankly, unintelligent because of her constant repetition of these phrases.

It inspired me to place special emphasis on ridding my own vocabulary of these bad habit phrases. I hope I don’t use them as much as the woman on the podcast, but I know I use them some, and I know some of my friends do, too. Many of us do it without even realizing it. It seems like the only way we can move beyond these phrases is if we start pointing it out to each other. We have to realize we’re doing it before we will ever be able to overcome it, right?

But how do we point it out to each other? Sometimes I find myself having a conversation with someone and I hear them start to repeat “like…” or “you know…” and I want to point it out to them, but there really isn’t a tactful way to do it. I’ve never mentioned it to anyone, and while I know I say them myself, but nobody ever calls me out on it either. Nobody wants to end up looking like a nagging parent.

I want y’all to call me out when I sart saying “like, you know?” Maybe a symbol that y’all could use to bring it to my attention. This would allow the conversation to keep going without anybody actually having to awkwardly say anything. Maybe an inconspicuous tug on the ear lobe or something? Be creative, or not. But don’t just let me keep sabotaging myself.

So have you ever broken yourself of this habit? How’d you do it? Have you ever brought it to a friend’s attention? Anybody ever brought it to yours? Got any suggestions? Is there anything I can do to help y’all break your own habits using these phrases?

3 comments to Like, You Know?

  • Ren

    I discovered a way to get rid of filler phrases by simply not talking until I had what I wanted to say formed in my head first. In my case it was trying to break the "umm…" and "uhhh…" habits. Ever watch 25K Pyramid game show? Nearly everyone does that when giving clues. Then again, maybe there is something in the vocal cues that help trigger our memory to find the words we're searching for.